Want to Have Your Best School Year Ever?
This is Part 1 of our 5 Part Series leading up to the #bestschoolyearever.
The first few weeks of school are typically pretty smooth. Everything is new, but once the excitement wears off, issues can arise. So, what are things to share with your children to help them in a difficult situation?
Remember the A, B, C’s
They can help your children in several different scenarios, including dealing with bullies, staying safe before and after school, and in daily interactions with classmates.
A: Avoid Potentially Dangerous Situations.
If every day after school, there’s a group of kids who tend to pick and poke at the younger kids, and they hang out around a particular area, avoid it. Think about what we talk about in sparring. The first line of defense is distance; just don’t be there. First, you should always talk to your parents, or another responsible adult (such as your teacher), and let them know what’s going on. (Note: Be sure your parents or guardian know you’ve altered your route.)
B: Be Calm – Breath.
This is not easy. The thing that makes calmness come easier is your martial arts training. When you are in a difficult situation, there’s confidence in knowing that if something did go wrong, you could defend yourself.
C: Communicate with Confidence.
In our Women’s Self Defense Classes, we say “use your Mama Bear voice”. Speak in a way that says, “I mean business.” Parents, one way you can practice this with your children is encouraging them to order their own food when you are at a restaurant. Encourage them to speak up, speak clearly, and respond respectfully.
D: Don’t Make it Worse by Arguing.
Oftentimes, when someone wants to start an argument, they’re shut down when you simply walk away. They are searching for a way to push your buttons. When you don’t give them something to “push”, end it. (This goes for “behind the keyboard” scenarios, too. Rarely will you change someone’s mind when you argue your point.)
E. Environment Can Create Opportunities.
Choose your friends wisely. It starts from an early age; “we are the sum of the 5 people we spend the most time with.” First, there IS safety in numbers. Teach your children that if they are walking somewhere, to go with a friend. Moreover, encourage them to choose friends who make good choices. They know. They’ll tell you after school who got in trouble, and why. This doesn’t mean that they’re unkind. They can be nice to someone, but don’t have to spend time with them.
F. “Fire” is better to yell than “Help”.
Remember these four words when in a scary situation: No, Go, Yell, Tell.
No: Use your confident voice. Go: Get away. Run to a teacher or other safe adult. Yell: Make noise. Saying things like, “this is not my dad!” will get the attention of adults near you. Tell: Always discuss with your children the importance of talking with you. It’s so important that they know that they can tell you ANYTHING. Be sure to remind them that NO adult will tell them to “not tell your parents”.
G. Get Away – Don’t Try to Win.
Whether it’s an argument, or an actual self defense situation, your best bet is GET AWAY. Create “space” and get away. Run to a trusted adult. (Who is a trusted adult? A person in uniform, or a mom with small children.)
Finally, we believe in the power of circling our families, friends, marriages, business, basically our LIFE in prayer. We stumbled across this one, and wanted to share.
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