Who Makes You Mad?
Did fifteen people (or things) come to mind?
Here’s the thing: No one MAKES you mad. You choose to be mad.
That’s right. It’s not them. It’s you. Anger is an emotion that we can either control, or allow it to control us, and who wants to be someone else’s puppet?
Are there frustrating situations? Yes. Are there scenarios that are genuinely maddening? Of course. However, you ARE most definitely in control of you response to the scenario or situation.
So when you want to scream, throw things, or punch someone, what to you do?
Remember the Acronym, CALM
C. Cool Down.
Take a deep breath. If you need to wait 24 hours before you say (or type) something that you will regret, do it.
A. Assert Yourself.
Not “blowing up” is not about laying down and getting walked on. If you need some real, practical advice on how to do this, we recommend the book “Crucial Conversations, Tools for Talking When Stakes are High”, by Kerry Patterson.
L. Look Them in the Eye.
Don’t be shy about looking someone in they eye and expressing your feelings. One of the most effective ways to express your sincerity it so look someone in the eye.
M. Mean Business.
Your tone doesn’t have to be condescending, accusatory, or belligerent to get the message across. Make your concern known in a manner that lets the person know you are serious.
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For more on being Proactive, and the other 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, we also recommend you check out Stephen Covey’s book.